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AITH for breaking up with my fiancé after she hit my face and caused serious medical damage?

EDIT BELOW: I am 27 (m) and my ex-fiancée is a 25 year old woman. We had a fairly decent relationship for 5 years and planned to marry in fall 2025. No kids. We both have professional jobs, shared and individual interests and our own group of friends. We probably would have had a nice life together. I’ve always known about her excessive and over the top fear of insects, especially spiders and worms and I’ve always done my best to be sensitive to this. Complete avoidance is impossible. One evening at a friends’ house, we were sitting out on a back patio with the other couple talking, roasting marshmallows, having a few beers and having a nice night. The next thing I remember is waking up in the ER with her crying and explaining what had happened. She saw a (non-venomous) spider on my forehead that I was not even aware of and freaked out. She picked up a cheap metal container that held a citronella candle and proceeded to bash my forehead, she thinks five times, until she was sure the spider was gone. The result was 8 staples, internal brain trauma and second degree burns all over my face. It’s been six months since this happened and the burn scars are still slightly visible. I could tell that she genuinely felt bad and after a couple days of rest I really felt bad for her too. I didn’t want to see her feeling guilty for her compulsion but at the same time after thinking and talking to friends, I decided it was best to call the engagement off. I explained that I really didn’t blame her and also that I didn’t want her to blame herself for my injuries but that I personally didn’t want to go through another situation like that again. A few days later after failing to convince me to change my mind, she left and I haven’t heard from her since. It’s been six months since the event and of course I miss her but I’m wondering if I was wrong here. She had freaked out in the past when insects had scared her, but never to the point of harming anyone. She wasn’t able to explain why she had reacted like this. She was not drunk and the people whose house we were at were very close friends. I really don’t understand but it has caused lasting damage to me. EDIT: I’ve had and responded to several questions about my friends. Rather than keeping responding one off I’ll add the edit here. I largely didn’t include anything about them above because they didn’t/couldnt do much. My long-time friend, the guy, was the one who took the candle from her and his wife called 911. I was sitting next to my ex and the other couple was directly across the firepit. According to my friend it happened fast and unexpectedly. Sounds like the paramedics were there less than 10 minutes after it happened. Neither of them remember seeing a spider or any other bug and both said that my ex was freaked out when she saw what she’d done to me, like she didn’t remember. But she did remember because she told me the story in the hospital. In any event the guy is the one who strongly supported me when I decided to leave her.

2025-10-21 18:19:07

Jonas Bergström

Current Events

Teacher Insisted My Son Was Allergic To Peanuts So I Reported The School To The State

A few weeks ago (around Easter) my son’s (5 on Easter) preschool did a small celebration that involved handing out candy. When I went to pick him up his teacher told him he couldn’t have any of the candy in a certain area because it had peanuts in it. I gently corrected her that my son is NOT allergic to peanuts, he’s allergic to tree nuts (almonds cashews etc) and to please be careful not to teach him misinformation about his allergy. She said “yes he is.” And I had to very firmly let her know that he is not allergic to peanuts. They are not tree nuts. And oddly enough he can eat them. Please check his file to understand exactly what he is allergic to and don’t teach him misinformation about his allergy. (Safety issue.). She said “you wrong. You ain’t even know what you baby allergic to.” I left and called the director and requested they have a training with the staff to educate about allergy safety. And specially any adult in charge of my own child needs to know about his allergy in detail. Fast forward to last week I stopped in to pick my son up early because he wasn’t feeling well and I came in at lunch time to see his whole class eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. (My son was eating lunch I packed from home because I feel it’s safest.) I asked the same teacher from before what they were having. She said pbj and I asked “I thought this was a nut free facility?” She said “oh it’s sun butter it just smells like peanut butter.” So I ducked my head into the kitchen and took a picture of the peanut butter jar on the counter with my phone and another of the “nut free facility” sign and at home I got ANOTHER of my contract where it says all nut products are banned (tree nuts, peanuts, etc) and I sent all 3 to the state licensing board. Then I withdrew my child from the program. My partner feels I am “doing too much” but I think they are allowing a teacher to disregard safety protocols and I’m not going to risk my child’s life. I might be TA because I want 0-60 about the issue when my son isn’t even allergic to peanuts and was not at risk when his classmates ate peanut butter sandwiches. But. They still thought he was. And still served it around him.

2026-01-02 18:36:59

Anya Petrova

Family

UPDATE: AITAH for not inviting my brother's girlfriend to my graduation after he asked me to let her wear my cap and gown ?

I finally graduated high school! (yay!) and I'm moving out of my mom’s house in a couple of weeks to go to the military. A week prior to graduation, I decided to invite my brother (he’s 15) to my high school graduation. I hoped he would realize his request to have his girlfriend wear my cap and gown was ridiculous. On the day of graduation, I found out my brother tried to invite his girlfriend behind my back. I warned him that if he invited her, he would not be welcome at the graduation party. He got mad and asked why his girlfriend couldn't come, stating we should all celebrate as family. I explained that her behavior was unacceptable; she had insulted our mother, expressed racist views toward me, and made fun of our dead grandfather (I punched her for that last one). After I told him he wasn't invited to the party, he told her. A few hours later, she and her PARENTS came to my mom’s house to reprimand me for "insulting their little girl." I stood up for myself and told them about their daughter’s horrible actions. They dismissed my concerns, saying teenagers joke around and I shouldn't be dramatic. My mom intervened, confronted them, and threatened to call the police, which made them leave. My brother eventually broke up with her, and we haven't seen the girlfriend or her parents since.

2026-01-02 18:35:57

Anya Petrova

Relationships

Update, I am reversing my vasectomy and my wife has gone literally insane.

I told my wife that I am not moving out. If she wants me out, she should file for divorce and we can work things out. I told her that I would ask my sister to accompany me for surgery and she would stay for few days with us to take care of me. So her life won't be affected in any way. I also told her that I am gonna hire help for household stuff so she literally doesn't have to do anything until we are staying together. What resulted was 2 hours of silence and then it was followed by something that can only be described as hysterical shitstorm. She was alternating between crying and screaming like a banshee. I am still shell shocked or maybe I just don't care. It's hard to tell. I called her mom and she has been living with us and dealing with her. I am mostly avoiding her. I was able to hire someone on short notice but my wife accused her of sleeping with me. So she is not coming back. My main focus is on reversing my vasectomy for now. I will deal with other things after that

2026-01-02 18:45:26

Luca Moretti

Family

[UPDATE] my mom defended my pedophile brother again — this time, she went all in and attacked me.

I posted before about how my mom continues to defend my brother, who is a convicted pedophile. I confronted her in a long, honest message about how painful and messed up that is — and how she treats him with more compassion than she’s ever given me. She finally responded. And it was one of the most vile, manipulative things I’ve ever read. Here’s what she said, word for word: “Just one minute! I haven't even finished all of your text and I am not going to. I never told you that you had to have anything to do with him. (my other brother) doesn't. I don't care, it's your choice. Let me make another thing clear to you. I won't put up with you throwing what he did or how I treat him up in my face ! You have no right. I don't give up on my kids ever! I don't throw them away like trash. I haven't given up on (my sister)... She hates me but I love her because she is my daughter. You are the hateful one, the mean one, the unforgiving one. You have a hateful heart. Alex wasn't picking up kids on the playground. He is paying for what he did, and getting the help he needs. He's working on bettering himself. What are you doing? I'm disgusted with your behavior towards all of this. Your words turn my stomach and make me shake with anger. I don't even recognize the person that you've chosen to become. God help us all if this is how you choose to live your life. You want to be treated like a grown up? You are a little very little human. You fault others for being able to have compassion where you only show bitterness. I can't even believe we're related. You're going to find out what life with no support looks, right now. im glad to know one of my children walks on water.” she didnt just dismiss what I said — she dehumanized me for saying it. She made excuses for my brother’s crimes (“he wasn’t picking kids up off playgrounds”), painted him as some misunderstood soul “getting help,” and then called me hateful, bitter, mean, and unforgiving. She said I’m the one who disgusts her. She said I’m the one she can’t even believe she’s related to. She said I have a “hateful heart.” And then she literally threatened to cut me off, saying I’m about to “find out what life with no support looks like.” Meanwhile, my brother abused children. This message wasn’t just cruel. It was emotionally abusive. It was gaslighting. And it made one thing painfully clear: she doesn’t want the truth — she wants silence and submission. I’m not giving her either.

2026-01-02 12:04:26

Jonas Bergström

Current Events

I Let A Girl Try To Stick Me With A $300 Tab And Now She's Reporting Me To My Mom

I'm m23 and few months ago I was at a nice bar in Toronto with my boys and I saw this really hot girl. Decided to shoot my shot and we spoke and danced for a bit and I offered to buy her a drink and she gladly accompanied me to the bar, when I got there I was like can I have a beer and whatever she wants. She promptly says can I get 4 double shots of 1942. Thats like $75 a shot for a double of 1942 and I was like wtf and she said there for her friends and patted me on the back. When the bartender came back I slapped a $10 bill on the table and told him she'd be covering the shots and walked away. She was pissed and yelling the normal insults lol. Well it turns out my mom works with her and they were talking and my mom showed her a picture of me (god damn it mom!) and she instantly recognized me and remembered my name and told my mom about what I did. My mom then called me and said I'm a huge asshole and told me to send her the cost of the 4 drinks which was like $325 with tips. I just laughed and told my mom I'm not doing that and my mom said that the girl thinks I'm a huge asshole and douche and she agrees LOL.

2025-10-30 09:38:37

Jonas Bergström

Family

My Sister Faked Being In Danger And Then Reported Me For Harassment After I Called Help

A few months ago I (27f) got several erratic texts from an number I didn’t recognise, the person didn’t give their name but knew a lot about my step sister Emily (29f), the person said that Emily was a danger to herself. It was very late at night for them, but at the time I was out of the country for work and in a different time zone. I didn’t want to wake our parents, but I was Concerned so I called my sister’s local station for a wellness check. Since a fall out, my step sister and I haven’t been so close, but I’ve always cared about her, and been kind to her despite our differences. I was shocked when I got home from my work trip to receive a call from my mother claiming that Emily had reported me for harassment. I received many nasty messages from my family (including my mother (60f) and other two sisters (early 20s)) before they finally told me what I had apparently done… Emily claims that someone had bought multiple burner phones that they used to harass her via text for a year, and that she “knows” it was me. Emily claims that she baited this person into believing she was a danger to herself to see if she could call their bluff. And that me calling for a wellness check is proof I was harassing her. I was heartbroken when I heard this, unlike Emily I earn very little and unlike my other sisters I’m not funded by our parents. They know I live paycheque to paycheque, and work long hours… they know very well I can’t afford the so called “multiple burner phones”, and don’t have the energy or time to harass my worst enemy, let alone my own family. Since this weird accusation, I’ve taken a step back from them, opting out of spending Christmas with them. To which I received grief, being told everyone was disappointed in me for not going to see them. I’ve decided to softly cut them out, I will send them nice texts occasionally, but I’m not interested in seeing them. I’ve made that very clear to them that I’m not happy with them and that I need to stay away for my wellbeing.

2025-10-19 16:38:51

Elise Dubois

Current Events

AITAH for breaking up with my gf after I found out she slept with someone while dating (and lied about it)?

When I first started dating my now ex, and asked her if she wanted to be exclusive, I asked her two questions. 1. Was she seeing anyone else? She said no. And 2. Has she slept with anyone else while dating me? She said no. She did ask me why I asked her that. I told her that I believe that if you sleep with someone else when dating others, that makes us incompatible. Cuz to me that means she either doesn't see sex the same way I do, or if she does she it the same way I do, then it means she chose someone else over me. (We hadn't slept together by then btw) So, after that, we were together, for about year and some months. I found out that she had in fact slept with someone else while dating me. Honestly, there wasn't anything she could have said, but I figured I should ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁. 🍿

2025-08-17 17:35:55

Jonas Bergström

Current Events

AITA (19F) for breaking up with my BF (27M) over this?

At 2 a.m. in our hotel in Japan, I woke up to my BF of two years slamming the washer-dryer, loudly cursing and making so much noise I thought he was physically hitting the machine (he says he didn’t but it sounded like it). I sat up, startled and scared. I calmly told him to move so I could take care of it. He refused. I asked him repeatedly to back away because he was standing over me. He wouldn’t. Then he said, “It’s better to take it out on a washer dryer than on you.” That statement sounded like I was an option for an outlet of his anger at the very best and at worst sounded like a threat. I locked myself in the bathroom, crying and terrified, while he stood outside the door, coming back repeatedly, asking me to come out. I was across the world from home and my family and scared for my safety. He then posted a whole thing on Reddit about how he never does this, and that he was “whispering”. I don’t know what to believe and I’m completely doubting myself. I know how he made me feel in the moment but I can’t help but look back on it and question myself. Should I not have broken up with him? Everyone has fights and he scared me, but maybe he’s right and I’m too sensitive. I know for a fact it wasn’t just “whispering curse words” in frustration like he claims. It was intense, loud, aggressive, and threatening. But he was really tired and we had a big day. No one is perfect and he thinks it’s a waste for me to throw away a perfectly good relationship over this. I feel so guilty and torn. I have no idea what to do and I am very grateful for your guidance because I’m 19 and feel way over my head. He has done this type of thing before and knows it upsets me, but it’s very few and far between. Only about four instances in two years. What would you do?

2026-03-02 23:23:12

Jonas Bergström

Current Events

Future MIL snooped through my son's medical files at her job and I finally reported her

Edit- UPDATE: I just wanted to say, first of all, thank you to everyone for your input. Both the positive and negative feedback gave me some different perspectives so I appreciate both. It has been so nice to hear that majority of people believe that my actions were justified and reassure me it was, in fact, a breach of confidentiality and illegal. This is not the first time my FMIL (which is future mother in-law, for those who were confused) has overstepped, manipulated situations/words, and just been an overall menace in my life, which you can find many posts about on my profile. Many people seem to understand that manipulators are great at getting in people's heads, so this clarification and reassurance means a lot to me so I know I'm not going insane and I did right by my son. We went to his doctor this morning to see her about cerebral palsy and a clubbed foot, which FMIL called my fiancé "concerned" about, which the doctor basically said she can't see at all what she is talking about and even said herself that she thinks FMIL was using this as a stretch to try and say it was that instead of autism. She then said it was in her notes regarding the developmental interventionalist program I'm in with my son, where FMIL works, to send any future documents directly to my case worker and not the office as there was a breach of confidentiality and she asked me what that was about....so I told her what FMIL did and she literally gasped and said, "that is completely against the law". She then asked if fiancé was supportive of me during that time, to which I opened up about what fiancé had done and his standpoint....she was very comforting and also assured me I did completely right by my son and FMIL was way out of line and she was also disappointed that she got basically zero repercussions for something that not only was illegal but a conflict of interest, which FMIL would have known both of those things prior to her actions. She reassured me it was FMIL's choices and actions that would have gotten her fired, not my own, and it's ridiculous of anyone to even think that for one moment. She also said that if FMIL did "stumble upon" the papers, she should have walked away the moment she saw my son's name, knowing it was a conflict of interest. But since she deliberately snooped for the information and read it fully, that was soo much worse. Overall, she was absolutely appalled by this and literally in shock. Anyway, thank you to everyone for your comments and for reaching out to me privately, I truly appreciate all of the feedback and the support!! 🤍 ---- About 2 or 3 weeks ago now I reported my FMIL to her workplace for reading my son's confidential information. For starters, I am in Canada, not the US, but we do still have a confidentiality law similar to the US. Anyway, here is the story. My son was referred to an early interventions office after I raised concerns to our family doctor about possible autism for his 18 month check up. After hearing my reasons for suspecting this, she agreed he very well could have it and referred me to start with an early childhood developmental interventionalist to assess his needs and then refer me to the autism team. Unfortunately, FMIL works there. (Also, please note I am in a very small town and this was the ONLY option). Although for the past three years she has worked at a different office which is almost two hours away, it is rare for her to be in the office my son was referred to. Her work, on top of strict confidentiality laws that, to my understanding, state you can't just read any patient's file that you want to, have strict rules that family cannot work with family as it's a conflict of interest. Somehow she happened to be in that office location when my son's referral came in (which I'm very suspicious of), and side note she did know about the referral ahead of time because my fiance felt the need to tell her that her work would be getting a referral for him. She called my fiance and told him she read his referral and told him what it said, what the doctor's notes were, etc. And her thoughts on it all. Which BTW she is highly against my son having autism and thinks I am making it all up to get him diagnosed for whatever reason, and I was afraid of her swaying his assessment due to talking to coworkers about her strong opinions. I was already planning on asking the assigned worker during our first visit to keep FMIL off the case (including discussing it with her if she asked anything about it) due to conflict of interest, but after my fiance told me she flat out read his information she was not entitled to read, I thought absolutely not and I emailed the office immediately to express what an overstep I found that to me and stating that I want her to have zero involvement moving forward and I want her to never be able to read anything involving his case again. This became a huge issue. My fiance was angry with me as he said I should have gone to FMIL FIRST and asked her to please not read our son's file. Then, if it happened two more times to remind her I will report her if it keeps happening, then after a third time fiance said he would step in to warn her himself. To me, first of all, that is 4 chances before fiance even steps in and 5 chances before she potentially gets any repercussions, and also secondly I figured why wouldn't she just keep reading it and just not tell us she read it. Fiance says I lack respect and I am a coward for not calling or going to his mother in person to discuss it and hear her side and tell her I want to report her BEFORE taking any action. So, what happened was, his mother went to a board meeting with a bunch of people, including her boss and board of directors for the company and whoever else. She is set to retire in just a few weeks now, and they concluded that what she did was extremely wrong but considering she is leaving very soon and it was her grandchild, they basically slapped her on the wrist with the warning if it happened again she would be done for, and sent her on her way. FMIL claims that she was perfectly within her right to read my son's information because she claims "anyone could have read it" as it was just a referral faxed over from the doctor (FYI there was more than just a basic referral, there was also confidential papers on a developmental questionnaire I did with my doctor to determine if he even needed the referral there or not) and she could have even been the one to be sitting at the fax machine and received it. She also claimed, while yelling at me on the phone the night before her board meeting to try and get me to tell them she was just a concerned grandma and I gave her permission to read his information, that she only read it because she believed I was in the wrong spot and getting the wrong referral for him and she wanted to read what me and the doctor said so she could determine a better place for him to be referred to and "help me". Which I told her was none of her business and not her place whatsoever. She also didn't "stumble upon" his papers, she seemed them out and read them, knowingly, not accidentally. Anyway, the family is mad at me and claims what she did was "upsetting" but me reporting her and potentially "ruining her career and risking her job, retirement and life (because you can possibly be charged or go to jail for breaching confidentiality)" is a million times worse than what she did initially to make me even report her. Sorry for the long post and thank you so much in advance if you bothered to read this all. Based on this information, AITAH? Or am I partially? And also, how would you have handled this situation and I am open to any additional comments or suggestions or anything. This has been weighing heavy on my mind as I feel I did the right thing for my son and his privacy, but I have my fiance's family in my ear telling me what I did was extremely wrong on every level. I am just so torn and confused on what I did or if I'm wrong for doing it.

2025-09-26 16:38:20

Elise Dubois

Relationships

Redditors Descend On Man For Wanting To Share Pregnancy News With His Parents Without His Wife There

Me (37m) and my wife (33f) learned that she is about 8 weeks pregnant. We are delighted but also terrified. It is the first time for both of us. She has asked me to not share the news with anyone until we get to about 12 weeks, when the pregnancy will be stable. So I have been keeping it, even though I really want to share the news with everyone around me. A key detail is that we are currently in long distance: she lives in the same country as her parents, while I am an expat and live alove. She will move in with me and to our new house in one month. She decided that she would like to tell her parents about her pregnancy before she leaves her home country, so that they can share some of the joy while they are together. This way she can also do one of the ultrasounds with her mother and experience this special connection. This is all understood, and I told her I support her in how she wants to handle the pregnancy information. She did share it with her parents, and they were overjoyed – the house is in a festive mood, they cannot stop smiling and laughing, etc. I am still under an information embargo though. (note: I did ask her to let me share with a couple of select people, for my own mental sanity, since I really needed to be able to open up to a friend. She was fine with it) Now to the drama. I asked her if I could also tell my parents, to which she responded that she prefers me to wait for the 12 weeks. By that time we will have moved in together in the country where I live. I said fine, but then she asked me that we reveal the news to my parents together, she and I. I can honestly not tell why, but I would like to tell my parents myself. There are no other grandchildren in our family, and I have been living away from home (like three continents away) for the last 12 years. So, in my mind, I really want to share this with my mom and dad and also have the same ‘joyous family moment’ like she did. My wife took it badly. I think she feels excluded or that I do not want her to somehow be part of my family? Which on my part is absolutely not true. I just feel like I do not want this to be a joint announcement sort of situation. I want it to be intimate between me and my parents, and right after, we could all have a joint video call or whatever. She is very upset. I reminded her that we did not announce to \*her\* parents jointly. She is saying that I did not express any desire to do so (which is true, I did not even think of it) … but since she is clearly communicating \*her\* desire to me, it is different, and I should hear her. Sure, but I still want this to be my moment with my parents. When I say it out loud though, “I want to announce our pregnancy to my parents without my wife” it sounds wrong. Somehow it is like I have this righteous feeling of possessiveness over a piece of news/information. I am conflicted. Am I the Asshole? Note: she and my parents do not share a common language and communicate via translator app

2025-09-26 19:33:36

Luca Moretti

Current Events

AITAH for refusing to convert to his religion and breaking up

I am 26f and has been with my bf 28m for last three years. I am not american and based in Asia. He presented himself as open minded guy and despite my friends warning about the religion conversion of girls, I still felt for him. He acted open minded and is handsome as hell.. He told me that we will marry by law and won't have convert to each other's religion. My family wasn't happy. But they accepted for my happiness. I come from very open minded family of women. Where clothes and living liberally is a choice. But for last few months. He has started complaining about my shorts and one piece dresses. And made me wear long dresses, jeans only. I compromised because I didn't wanna lose him. Note girls in their faith dress conservative and i respect their freedom of choice. But that isn't my cup of tea. Things came to head when we started discussing wedding and suddenly he said, his parents won't accept a woman from other religion. He said we will do religious wedding and live liberally. I refused because doing religious wedding meant I would be stuck with their religious laws instead of country's law. After many fights and my refusal. I called off the relationship. I love him but I love my faith and I won't change it for anyone. Now he and his family are calling me names and said i can't compromise little for our happiness. My family is happy with my decision. I miss him but I don't want to be trapped. hid friends are calling me heartless.

2026-03-02 23:16:47

Luca Moretti

Current Events

UPDATE: AITA for not answering any contact from work while on maternity leave?

Most of you agreed that I should not be working for my cousin. I mentioned on the last post that I'd had some offers from competitors, and while most paid about the same, they required a step down in my career. A few of you pointed out that if I can earn the same money *after* a step down, something isn't matching up. I did some research and came to the conclusion that I am being overworked and underpaid. I also triple checked all my notes for the last 7 months of leave, and calculated that I had worked for 87 days out of just over 200. That was where I hit my limit. I then reached out to some of the people who had made offers previously, and asked if they could give me a formal offer. 3 of them did. My favourite has fewer hours/responsibilities and *more* money, and they're fine waiting on me to finish up my planned maternity leave (9 more weeks) before I start. I had a 'check in day' scheduled for later this month, but pulled it forward to Monday and asked my cousin and a few others to be there. I laid out all of the above. I was open to negotiating in a way that would let me stay in the company, but my cousin flew off the handle, and after that we agreed that me staying was no longer an option. As I have 9 weeks of leave left, I will hand in my notice, meaning I will not come back to work, but I will be paid for this time, as well as compensated for the leave I lost. My cousin has blocked me on everything, but his mum has called my mum, who has been yelling at me for 2 days. I've had to block my own mother. My cousin is attempting to rally our entire family against me, but I have nan on my side, so he is not succeeding. I am **never** working with family again.

2025-10-30 09:37:47

Luca Moretti

Current Events

UPDATE my fwb slept with someone else and is upset that I don’t care

I’m honestly really upset right now because I’ve just lost someone who I thought was my best friend. Some more info on mine and Luke’s friendship. Him and I have known each other since we were 15 and started hooking up at 17. I’ve had 2 relationships since we started hooking up and he’s had one. Our agreement is if one of us gets in a relationship or is interested in someone we stop sleeping together. Luke came over yesterday and we talked. Thankfully he doesn’t have feelings for me like the majority of comments suggested. Turns out he’s just an egotistical dick. Basically he believes he has a magic penis that’s so good nothing can top it. He did hook up with someone and he told me because he wanted to see me get upset and jealous. We argued for a bit once he said that and afterwards we talked more. Turns out the only reason he even wanted to be my friend when we were 15 is because he wanted to sleep with me. I have always been sexualised because of my body. (I hit puberty when I was ten and was a DD cup when him and I met) The first time I met him I genuinely thought I had met someone who didn’t only see my boobs. I was wrong. I kicked him out of my house and have blocked him everywhere. I feel disgusting and worthless. I’ve always tried to be seen as more then my body but it clearly hasn’t worked. I’m so done. I might as well start an only fans at this point. I’m so tired and numb and I just wish I was dead. I hate this. I thought he was a good person but turns out that for five years all he’s seen is a pair of tits instead of me.

2026-01-02 11:57:02

Clara Jensen

Relationships

My Wife Views Intimacy As A Favor And I Am Finally Reaching My Breaking Point

Here’s a little backstory about my relationship with my wife. We’re both 31 and have been together for almost 14 years, married for 9, with two amazing kids, aged 5 and 4. We started dating just before graduating high school after being friends for two years. Early on, my wife was upfront about wanting to take things slow—she was new to everything, and I was her first boyfriend, first kiss, first date. She made a promise to her mom to wait until marriage for sex, and I respected that. We didn't have sex until we got engaged, which was over three years into our relationship. We had some disagreements over the issue, but I loved her and was willing to wait until she was ready. After getting married, I assumed things would change, but sex remained scarce, averaging once or twice a month. For a long time, I thought it was my fault—maybe I wasn’t satisfying her, or I wasn’t attentive enough. I internalized the blame. When I tried talking to her about it, she would often respond with, "Is that all you think about?" I even asked if she had any fantasies or things she wanted to explore, but I got no real feedback. This became a recurring issue that led to most of our arguments, though, outside of this, we rarely fought. She’s my best friend, and I couldn’t imagine life without her. At one point, I suspected she might be asexual since she never seemed interested in sex or initiated anything. When I brought it up, she admitted she never really thought about sex or the possibility that she might be asexual. Then we found out we were expecting our first child. Oddly enough, sex became the best it had ever been, though she acknowledged it was due to the pregnancy. However, after our second child, things changed again—sex became almost nonexistent. After her second pregnancy, we decided she would be a stay-at-home mom, something she had always dreamed of, while I would provide for the family financially. Life got busy with kids, bills, and everyday stress, and sex became less of a priority. As the kids grew older and things settled, I started bringing up sex more often, which led to more arguments. I felt like she never wanted it, and it became a source of frustration for me. We even discussed the possibility of her being asexual again and decided to see a marriage therapist to help us navigate this issue. Around this time, I also came across the concept of love languages, which helped me understand that mine is physical touch, while hers are acts of service and quality time. Physical touch was last on her list, and we went over this with our therapist. I hoped this would solve our problems. I made an effort to meet her love languages, and she became more open to sex, but I still had to initiate most of the time. The therapist eventually said we were doing fine and didn’t need further sessions, but sex again became less frequent, and I continued to feel like she was just doing me a favor. This pattern has persisted throughout our entire relationship. I’ve tried to be an active partner at home, ensuring I’m not one of those husbands who doesn’t contribute. But after 13 years of feeling unwanted in this area, my self-esteem is at an all-time low. While everything else in our relationship is great, I’ve begun to wonder if I should ask for an open relationship so I can meet my needs. She’s an incredible mother and person, and I don’t want to hurt her and destroy my family. I just feel stuck and don’t know what to do. But I'm also worried that even bringing this up might damage our relationship. I know I'm not perfect. I could be more romantic, focus more on making her feel loved and not expect anything in return. Make sure she's not overwhelmed with the kids and the house. I try to do all those things. I just want to know how it feels to be genuinely wanted sexually. And I don't believe I've ever had that.

2026-01-02 18:30:17

Elise Dubois

Current Events

My Friend Posted Graphic Photos Of Her Miscarried Fetus And I Reported Them To Facebook

AITA for reporting my friend’s miscarriage photos to Facebook? Throwaway for obvious reasons. A friend announced a few months ago that she was pregnant. She and her boyfriend were very excited. We’ve been friends since childhood and I was happy for her. I had a miscarriage two years ago and it was pretty traumatic, so I’m mentioning that for full disclosure. When my friend would have been 15 weeks pregnant, she posted a graphic, gory photo of her miscarried fetus saying she was devastated. Note the terminology: miscarried fetus, not stillborn baby. This pregnancy wasn’t even close to viability and it did not look like a baby. It looked like a shock image. The fetus looked like it had been dead a while and was sort of disintegrating. :( I was upset and grossed out but simply offered my condolences and clicked “hide” on the first image. Then it got weirder. A few hours later, she and her boyfriend rolled out a bunch of bizarre photos where they were posing with this visibly decaying fetus in their hands and one where she was kissing it. It looked like they were trying to replicate the photos that parents take with actual stillborn babies but like they weren’t even realizing that this was not the same thing. actually got physically sick seeing the pictures where she was kissing it and I reported all the posts to Facebook for graphic violence. Facebook removed them. She and her boyfriend have spent the last several telling everyone they could about how they were victimized and abused by Facebook and how they had a beautiful, perfect baby and someone thought their baby was “graphic violence.” And of course the obligatory “If you think my beautiful child is violent or gory, unfriend me now.” The only reason I haven’t unfriended her is because I’m realizing I might have been TA and I may owe her an apology and may need to process through my repulsion on my own, rather than reporting someone to Facebook while they were grieving.

2025-09-08 11:05:30

Anya Petrova

Current Events

AITA for refusing to forgive my Dad for breaking our deal?

When I (17 M) was 8, my parents bought me a piano and signed me up for lessons. I was super excited because I love music. Over time I kind of became known as the 'piano guy' at school. I play at school concerts, accompany the school jazz choir, and play once a week for the residents at a couple of retirement homes in our town. When I was 15, I started to talk about quitting lessons, and my parents quickly tried to guilt me out of it. I told them I wanted to try other things, and that between piano and studying, I didn't have much time left for other extra curriculars. My Dad proposed a deal. If I kept playing and taking lessons until I reached level 10 RCM (Royal Conservatory of Music), and continued to keep my grades up at school, he would buy me a new car of my choice. I jumped at it and we shook hands on the deal. I should explain that my family is well off financially. I have a very privileged life, but I wouldn't say I've been spoiled. If I ever want a luxury item like a new phone or game console, I have to buy it myself with money I've saved from summer and after school jobs. I should also explain that my Dad's big on loopholes. When we compete, he always finds a way to win, and when I do it doesn't count because of some loophole. It drives me nuts, but he thinks it's hilarious. Whenever I complain about him not playing fair, his answer is always the same: life isn't fair. So, because of our deal, I kept up with my lessons. I spent about 1-2 hours a day on piano, while keeping my grades up. Last summer, I took my level 9 RCM exams and passed, fulfilling my part of the deal. II told my Dad I'd chosen the BMW X5 plug-in hybrid SUV. A couple of months ago, on my birthday, I came downstairs for breakfast, and my Dad told me there was a surprise waiting for me in the garage. I ran out, and sitting in the middle of the floor was a 1/24 scale, toy BMW X5. My Dad burst out laughing and said, "A deal's a deal, so as promised here is your brand new BMW!" My heart absolutely broke. I asked if he was being serious, and he said I couldn't seriously have expected him to buy a 17 year old a real brand new BMW and that we could discuss getting me a reasonably priced used car. I said we had a deal and I fulfilled my end of it, he said he did too since I never said that the car had to be full size and drivable. I said he wasn't being fair. His response: life isn't fair. Ever since this happened, I've been distant with my Dad. I honestly feel like he betrayed my trust and that he deliberately made a fool out of me. He keeps bringing up the idea of a used car, but I told him I'm not interested, which I admit is kind of petty. I have enough money saved that I can buy a cheap used car myself, and I just feel like if I accept one from him now it's like saying that breaking his promise didn't matter and that he didn't do anything wrong. AITA?

2025-10-23 19:14:23

Clara Jensen

Family

AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend after he did something weird at my best friend’s wedding?

I (27F) have been with my boyfriend, Mark (29M), for about three years. We’ve had our ups and downs, but I thought we were in a really good place. Recently, my best friend, Rachel (28F), got married, and I was her maid of honor. It was a huge deal for her, and I was super excited to be by her side. The wedding was beautiful, everything went smoothly, and Mark was with me as my plus-one. We were having a great time dancing, laughing, just enjoying the night. But then, during the reception, Mark did something completely unexpected. So, Rachel and her new husband were dancing their first dance, and Mark was acting kind of off, which I chalked up to him just being nervous. Then, out of nowhere, he pulls me aside and says he wants to “talk” to me privately. We step out to a quieter area, and he’s suddenly telling me that he doesn’t feel “ready for this kind of commitment.” Like, we’ve been talking about getting engaged for a while, and I was under the impression we were on the same page, but now he’s telling me that he doesn’t think he’s ready for marriage — right there, at my best friend’s wedding. I try to stay calm and ask him what he’s talking about, and he says it’s not just about me, but that he’s not sure about the whole “forever” thing. He’s just “having doubts” in general. This was coming out of nowhere, and I was shocked. I told him I needed some space and walked back inside to be with my friends. I honestly just felt embarrassed at that point. It wasn’t the right time or place for that conversation, and it really put a damper on the night. Later on, I tried to talk to him about it again, but he kind of just brushed it off, saying it wasn’t a big deal and that he’d “sort himself out.” Long story short, after thinking about it for a few days, I ended things with him. I told him that if he wasn’t sure about us, I couldn’t keep putting myself in a situation where I’m always uncertain of where we stand.

2025-10-28 12:07:37

Elise Dubois