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Coworker Keeps Stealing My Lunch So I Reported Her and Now Everyone Thinks I'm Heartless
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Coworker Keeps Stealing My Lunch So I Reported Her and Now Everyone Thinks I'm Heartless

My coworker is single and pregnant. I think she’s due in June. We’re all happy for her and planning a big baby shower at work before she goes on maternity leave. The problem is she keeps stealing my lunch or snacks without asking. I literally caught her devouring my food, and when I confronted her, she started crying about cravings and called me heartless. I didn’t want to make a scene at work, so I just let it go and told her to at least ask before touching my food next time. Then it happened again. This time, it was my labeled tiramisu from a local bakery. I had planned to bring it to my friend after work. I lost it. I told her there was a label on the box with my name and a DO NOT TOUCH MY FOOD post-it on it. She just said, “I know, but the baby really wanted tiramisu! It was sooooo good .” Then she started crying again and making a scene. So I reported it to my boss. Now my boss wants to meet with both of us on Friday. Was I the asshole? Some coworkers think reporting her was too much and that if I’m so worried about my food, I shouldn’t put it in the work fridge. She is pregnant and single she probably can’t afford since she is single so be a little empathetic . Did I overreact?

Luca Moretti
AITA For Hiding My Lunch At Work and Reporting Coworker for Stealing It?
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AITA For Hiding My Lunch At Work and Reporting Coworker for Stealing It?

For the past two months I have been cooking meals at home and taking my lunch to work. I work in an office where we all have our own cubicles that the layout is large enough to be considered an "office." In the past 2 weeks someone kept stealing my lunch (even though I had my name and ext. on it) and went as far as to wash out the containers and leave a thank you note. I wrote an office email (b/c I didn't know who it was) asking them not to steal my lunch but it did not work. So I saw a couple of my colleague's coming in w/ a large lunch pail and leaving it in their cubicle. When I asked one of them, she said that's how you get to keep your lunch b/c the lunch pirates will steal your food otherwise. So I did the same thing, I bought a large lunch pail and like 6 of those blue ice things that keeps food cold and now keep my food in my cubicle on a 3M hanger under my office sweater. So an hour ago, I went to lunch and heated up my food and sat down to eat. This coworker (we don't work in the same dept. so I don't really know her) asked me if I came in late. I said no why? She said because my lunch was not in the fridge, I said its because I keep it in my cubicle now b/c I'm tired of people stealing my food. The microwave pings and I get my food out and proceed to eat, she put a Styrofoam plate next to me and I'm like looking at her. She says well you can split your lunch with me b/c I don't have any. I looked her dead in the face and asked her if she was the one stealing my lunch. She said she didn't steal she borrowed. I said "borrowed?" So when are you going to pay me back? I'm not welfare you didn't bring your lunch, we are literally in the middle of downtown you can literally throw a pebble and hit an eatery. I work just like you and if you didn't bring your food you better go buy some because I am not sharing PERIOD!!!" I closed my food containers and was making my way back to my cubicle to report her to HR. She called me selfish. I told her she was an entitled thief and I would be letting everyone know. So I reported her to HR, My manager and her manager. I got two emails from people IDK saying I should not have reported her because I don't know her situation. I emailed them back and told them they, nor her know my situation (which is pretty good but that's not the point) and anyone who is wearing Tom Ford Pumps should literally not be stealing anyone's food. So AITA for reporting her and not wanting to share? And AITA for keeping my food in my cubicle?

Anya Petrova
Man Who Separated From Ex-Wife Due to Infertility Now Expecting with New Partner, Seeks Advice on Sharing the News Without Hurting His Ex
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Man Who Separated From Ex-Wife Due to Infertility Now Expecting with New Partner, Seeks Advice on Sharing the News Without Hurting His Ex

My ex-wife is a complete girly-girl who loves children and always wanted a big family. She is a primary-school teacher and was a doula for her sister's births. We started trying when we were both 28 and had been married for 5 years. After 18 months without success we both got fertility testing. I was found to be infertile. I went through several diagnostic procedures and treatments that, frankly, I would like to forget. I was told the odds of me conceiving naturally were close to zero. We considered IVF, but the specialist said it was not viable. The whole episode took about 5 years from beginning to resignation. I was upset, but my ex-wife was devastated. She was briefly hospitalized for an acute depressive episode in 2015. It did not help that her younger sister had 5 children by that time. My ex-wife wanted to use a sperm donor. I understand that biology isn't everything, but despite counseling and my best efforts at rationalization, I could never moderate the feeling of revulsion at the idea of choosing to raise another man’s child. I knew I could never see the child as mine… maybe a stepchild... at best. My SIL called that toxic masculinity. ;( So... unstoppable force meets an immovable object. Deal-breaker. We divorced in 2017. It was a strange divorce, we both loved and supported each other throughout. We were still living together until about six months after the finalization, when my ex-SIL started finding men for my ex-wife to date. I then made myself scarce. We briefly reunited numerous times during the next year and are in each other’s wider social circle to this day. As I understand it, she has had no long-term relationships since our divorce, and surprisingly, no children. In mid-2018 I met my current GF. I revealed my infertility early in the relationship. She said she always thought she would have children, but she was young enough that by the time she was ready, maybe they could fix me. I pointed-out that this was setting-up both of us for future heartache, but I had fallen for her, so I wasn't going to argue. In April this year she missed her period. When the test came back positive, her first reaction was to go into full panic mode and swear she had never cheated on me. I never doubted her but realized that’s what every cheated-on partner says. But hey, you can now get a prenatal paternity blood test as early as 7 Weeks. Who knew?! The baby is mine, we are both delighted. I went to a fertility doc to see if anything had changed. It hadn’t. How did this happen then? His answer: "you won the lottery". Part of my problem was that the few sperm I did produce were deformed, so we have undertaken every available prenatal screening. This is also why we have only told 4 other people. But now we have the all clear. I share numerous friends and acquaintances with my ex-wife. We cannot conceal this from her. I know her, and although it has been two years since we were close, I know this will devastate her. My GF knows all the history and is totally supportive. She thinks that telling my ex-wife before she finds out is the right thing to do. How should I go about it? Should I contact my ex-wife’s sister or mother so they can be there? Maybe write a letter they can deliver? Tell her to her face? Ick. I do not want to cause my ex-wife any more pain than is inevitable.

Luca Moretti
UPDATE: AITA for telling my half-siblings to get over the fact that we have the same dad?
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UPDATE: AITA for telling my half-siblings to get over the fact that we have the same dad?

So, I (16F) didn't know my real dad was for most of my life. It turned out that he was my mom's best friend's husband cause he cheated with my mom. They all knew, my mom just didn't tell me until this year. Looking back he's always been like a dad to me even though I always referred to him as Uncle David. My dad and his wife, who I call Aunt Olivia, have kids and I always thought they liked me, like they're younger but they'd always want me to play with them and they were always trying to impress me and stuff. I was like an older cousin than a sister though. Since we got everything in the open I've been over to their house more often. Aunt Olivia loves having me there and I love having her be my stepmom cause she was already like my bonus mom. But the kids don't like me anymore, they don't want me to play with them anymore and they'll barely acknowledge my presence. Yesterday during dinner my dad ||...↙️

Jonas Bergström
[Final update] AITAH for kicking out my husband after he went to go see and comfort his ex-girlfriend?
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[Final update] AITAH for kicking out my husband after he went to go see and comfort his ex-girlfriend?

I (32F) and my husband (38M) have been married for 3 years, our relationship has had its ups and downs but we’re a relatively happy couple. Though, in the beginning of our relationship, he was also dating Angela (24F) 5 years ago, I was unaware of this other relationship but when I found out, I confronted him and he told me that since we weren’t officially dating that he didn’t know we were exclusive. I told him that if he didn’t cut off this relationship with Angela, that I was going to break it off. We left it at that and we didn’t talk for a while when he came to my apartment unexpectedly weeks later saying it was over with Angela and that he wanted to try again and asked me to be his girlfriend. Ever since then we have been a pretty normal couple, we have our moments but our relationship is going good and I believe he is my soulmate. Recently there’s been an issue in our relationship though, Angela. 3 weeks ago, we were out running errands and ||......🔽

Anya Petrova
My Son Called My Husband A Slur And Accused Him Of Abuse… So I Sent Him Away And Now My Family Is Breaking
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My Son Called My Husband A Slur And Accused Him Of Abuse… So I Sent Him Away And Now My Family Is Breaking

My son called my husband a slur and joked he might be a predator… now my husband cries every night and I sent my son away. I’m 37, my husband Zack is 36, and my son is 16. I divorced my ex years ago after she cheated on me the entire marriage. That chapter is dead and buried. Then I met Zack. Everything changed. We connected instantly. Same interests, same energy, same life goals. He was everything I didn’t even realize I needed. The only thing that mattered to me was my son. Zack was nervous at first, but he wanted a family. And when they met… it just worked. They bonded over everything. Games, jokes, late nights talking. They’d sit for hours playing together while I just watched, thinking I finally got it right. When my son was 10, he started calling Zack his other dad. That moment meant everything. That’s why this hurts the way it does. Last weekend, my son had friends over. Just normal teenage stuff. Video games, loud voices, nothing unusual. I went out to get groceries. Zack stayed home. But he wasn’t alone. He was sitting in the living room… while my son and his friends were in the next room. And they thought no one was listening. One of them asked my son how it feels having a father as... My son laughed. Said it was kinda shitty. Then it got worse. They joked that Zack probably touched him when he was younger. And my son didn’t shut it down. He said Zack could try now and he’d beat him up. More jokes. More slurs. More disgusting comments. All while Zack sat there… silently… listening… and crying. When I got home, he was already packed. Sitting in his car. Waiting for me so he wouldn’t leave my son alone. He told me everything. And something in me snapped. I went inside and confronted my son. At first… he didn’t even care. He agreed with what was said. I asked him straight… do you actually believe Zack would ever touch you? He said no… but “kids block those memories so who knows.” That was it. I told him to pack his things. He’s going to live with his mother. Three hours away. New life. New school. New everything. That’s when he broke. Crying. Begging. Saying he didn’t mean it. That he was just trying to look cool. But when I asked why he doubled down even after his friends left… he had no answer. So I didn’t change my mind. Now my son calls me every day. Says he misses me. Misses Zack. Wants to come home. And every time… I break after the call ends. Meanwhile… my husband is back. But he’s not the same. He cries every night. Like he lost something. Like he’s grieving. He even told me my son can come back… and he’ll leave instead. But I won’t let that happen. I refuse to lose him. But I also miss my son. And I don’t know if I made the right decision… Or if I just broke my family trying to protect it.

Clara Jensen
AITA for reporting my daughter’s teacher for forcing my daughter to write an essay
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AITA for reporting my daughter’s teacher for forcing my daughter to write an essay

A young student navigates the challenges of distance learning during a global pandemic. She faces a classroom environment where the teacher's personal opinions frequently overshadow the educational material. The tension reaches a breaking point when the teacher demands students write an essay supporting a specific lifestyle choice. The mother now faces a difficult decision regarding how to protect her child's academic freedom. A fifth-grade student attending distance learning has encountered several issues with her teacher, including the teacher's refusal to provide direct help and her practice of sharing political beliefs in class. The teacher has also been heard speaking poorly of students and parents on an open microphone. The situation peaked when the teacher assigned an essay requiring students to argue for a vegetarian lifestyle, claiming meat is unhealthy and inhumane. When the student asked to write about her family's Thanksgiving traditions instead, the teacher threatened her with a failing grade. The parent is now considering reporting this behavior to the principal to protect the student's academic interests.

Elise Dubois
Update to the FINAL UPDATE: AITAH for telling my lesbian ex-wife that her partner cannot be my son's mom.
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Update to the FINAL UPDATE: AITAH for telling my lesbian ex-wife that her partner cannot be my son's mom.

My son was with my ex for the last week, and came back to me yesterday. Yesterday when she dropped my son off, we had a little talk. She apologized and told me that she will not force our son to do anything. She then told me that she is sorry for trying to convince me for adoption and that she will not do it again. I said fine and told her that it was a stupid idea in the first place. She then told me that she had news and that they are planning to adopt a child, since they really needed a complete family and that I should not forced to give up my son. She sounded a little condescending while she said that but I didn't go after it too much. I said "whatever makes you two happy". She then told me that after they adopt a baby, she wanted to revisit the custody agreement, since she will have to make time for the new baby as well. She also told me that they have decided that her wife will be hands-off with my son and won't try and put herself in the role of a parent. I told her okay and that it's probably for the best since he already has parents. My son also told me that his mom told him that he might have a sibling very soon. He said that he was excited at the idea. Personally, I don't think it's bad either as long as they don't try to push me out of my son's life. Here's where I am a bit conflicted. She told me that she wanted to revisit the custody agreement in the future. I am worried since they couldn't adopt my son they are now trying to adopt a baby, this seems to me like a weird solution to a weird problem. Revisiting the custody agreement so soon after we had a fight over adoption seems extremely weird to me and this has been a very strange turn of events. If they could adopt in the first place then why put me through all that? I genuinely don't know how to react to this now. I don't know if revisiting the custody agreement is a good idea or not? I know I should be happy at the prospect of having more time with my son but don't know what to do now.

Luca Moretti
AITH for breaking up with my fiancé after she hit my face and caused serious medical damage?
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AITH for breaking up with my fiancé after she hit my face and caused serious medical damage?

EDIT BELOW: I am 27 (m) and my ex-fiancée is a 25 year old woman. We had a fairly decent relationship for 5 years and planned to marry in fall 2025. No kids. We both have professional jobs, shared and individual interests and our own group of friends. We probably would have had a nice life together. I’ve always known about her excessive and over the top fear of insects, especially spiders and worms and I’ve always done my best to be sensitive to this. Complete avoidance is impossible. One evening at a friends’ house, we were sitting out on a back patio with the other couple talking, roasting marshmallows, having a few beers and having a nice night. The next thing I remember is waking up in the ER with her crying and explaining what had happened. She saw a (non-venomous) spider on my forehead that I was not even aware of and freaked out. She picked up a cheap metal container that held a citronella candle and proceeded to bash my forehead, she thinks five times, until she was sure the spider was gone. The result was 8 staples, internal brain trauma and second degree burns all over my face. It’s been six months since this happened and the burn scars are still slightly visible. I could tell that she genuinely felt bad and after a couple days of rest I really felt bad for her too. I didn’t want to see her feeling guilty for her compulsion but at the same time after thinking and talking to friends, I decided it was best to call the engagement off. I explained that I really didn’t blame her and also that I didn’t want her to blame herself for my injuries but that I personally didn’t want to go through another situation like that again. A few days later after failing to convince me to change my mind, she left and I haven’t heard from her since. It’s been six months since the event and of course I miss her but I’m wondering if I was wrong here. She had freaked out in the past when insects had scared her, but never to the point of harming anyone. She wasn’t able to explain why she had reacted like this. She was not drunk and the people whose house we were at were very close friends. I really don’t understand but it has caused lasting damage to me. EDIT: I’ve had and responded to several questions about my friends. Rather than keeping responding one off I’ll add the edit here. I largely didn’t include anything about them above because they didn’t/couldnt do much. My long-time friend, the guy, was the one who took the candle from her and his wife called 911. I was sitting next to my ex and the other couple was directly across the firepit. According to my friend it happened fast and unexpectedly. Sounds like the paramedics were there less than 10 minutes after it happened. Neither of them remember seeing a spider or any other bug and both said that my ex was freaked out when she saw what she’d done to me, like she didn’t remember. But she did remember because she told me the story in the hospital. In any event the guy is the one who strongly supported me when I decided to leave her.

Jonas Bergström
AITA for cutting off my sister and telling her she’s no longer welcome in my house after threatening to sue me. UPDATE.
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AITA for cutting off my sister and telling her she’s no longer welcome in my house after threatening to sue me. UPDATE.

The family wedding was over the weekend and everything there was great! No drama I kept my distance from Jane. The bride was not out staged at all! Well not by me and the drama atleast However Sunday after the wedding my aunt Renee called me to ask if I would be coming to dinner to celebrate Christmas early since Jane was in town and would not be coming for the actual holiday. I politely declined, said I would send the children's gift with my dad but there was no need to go and pretend that I was over Jane's behavior. My aunt then said "I would be upset too if you refused to give me my share but gave little sis her share, that really shows a divide" I asked her to said that again because I think I hallucinated. Jane really has been out here saying I split the house with my little sister when I did not. I explained to my aunt what actually happened and then my dad confirmed the information I gave. My aunt was shocked. Not only had Jane lied to her and the whole family she also lied and said my dad never gave her anything. He gave me the house, my little sister his business and Jane a lump sum of money to start her bakery since she had no interest in running the family business. Jane is currently staying with aunt Renee, but Renee is now upset and feels duped into this whole mess. Renee and my dad are both upset with Jane but still believe that I should forgive and forget and move forward. Renee is going to talk to Jane tomorrow before she leaves to go back to Idaho but I'm not sure it will do anything. Not a great/entertaining update but I guess I felt compelled to finish the story. At this point though I don't care if I'm the AH (I was surprised by the amount of comments saying I was) but I don't need anymore stress from these people.

Anya Petrova
I told my guy friend why I don't want to date him, our friends are saying I broke him. UPDATE
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I told my guy friend why I don't want to date him, our friends are saying I broke him. UPDATE

So a couple things have happened since then. After some people mentioned things on my safety I took it to heart and told my sister and her husband (I live with them for now) the issue. Of course it was also just incase my ex friends were to stop by the house since they would do that sometimes. Since there's a baby at our house (my sister's baby) they thought having cameras was not a bad idea, for everyones safety. And I told my bf as well since some of you were worried about his safety too. He's a fit guy and has security at his house so he'll be alright. On Friday, I went to a birthday party with my bf for one of his friends and everything was Going well until I saw one of Mark's side kicks. Let's call him Ben, i pass him without saying anything and he just looks at me. I notify my bf that he's there and we decide to not let him bother us. An hour later I saw him, Mark, talking to the birthday girl (not surprised they know each other honestly. Most of us went to the same primary school and stayed connected through the years). Then he made his way over to us smiling like nothing happened. He went straight to my bf and extended his hand, "I'm mark, you remember me right? and you must be the bf" he says. My bf shaked his hand being polite of course. He then he told him in his most annoying voice "can I borrow her for a sec, I just want to talk." I immediately shut him down and told him to leave us alone, he didn't. He persisted for a full minute and when my boyfriend tells him to leave he just goes on and tried to take my hand by force. My bf being already annoyed by the whole issue slaps the arrogance out of him, he tries to fight back but my bf punches him in his face. The security people were called and took him out shouting and we left after explaining the whole thing to the birthday girl. My boyfriend dropped me off at home and he left immediately. The next day, that is Saturday a video was sent to me, a video of Mark being taken away by the security and people laughing... I guess somebody was filming. The person who sent it is one of Mark's ex gf. Her message was "served him right." So yeah, that's where we are now.... It has been quiet since yesterday but knowing Mark, he'll definitely pull something on my bf. My bf is not one to resort to violence but mark had it coming honestly if it wasn't him someone would have done it.

Luca Moretti
UPDATE: WIBTA if I didn't report my coworker to HR?
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UPDATE: WIBTA if I didn't report my coworker to HR?

So I reported my colleague to HR. After my husband kept telling me if it was the other way around, I would report it, I did it. I told HR that I don't want any investigation or to hurt her in any way, I just want to be on the record that it happened. HR assured me no further action would be taken unless I want it, and it will be kept anonymous. I felt so bad for doing it, I thought I made a big mistake by reporting a misunderstanding. My colleague missed work the next couple of days and when she came back she was visibly changed. Very annoyed. Since we still sit one next to another in the office, I behave normally and we don't speak about that day. Today she scoffed when a colleague from a different department passed by. I looked at her with the corner of my eye, but she saw it, and she leaned over to me and probably felt like it was a good time to dish some tea. She told me she has been called to HR and given a lecture about work harassment and has a couple of in-person courses on this. I honestly froze at that moment. Sandy then proceeds to tell me that coworker who just passed must have reported her because they were flirting and she made some jokes that might not have landed well with that colleague. I was there looking at her like an idiot not knowing what to say while she went on a rant about how this place is so against LGBTQ people and you can't make a joke or flirt without someone taking offence. She told me she is just trying to find people to have fun with and encourage them to explore their options. She even gave me as an example "I tried to help you as well but for sure you weren't ready for it". I did not say a word and just looked at her for a second before coming back to my work. I felt like an idiot. I really thought she made a mistake by kissing me, and defended her so much to my husband, saying that it was a simple misunderstanding and she felt so embarrassed. now I know I was one of the people she tries to "help explore". I don't know what to do with this information. I still believe misunderstandings can happen, but I don't feel that bad for reporting her anymore. My husband was right. You guys were right.

Clara Jensen
[Update] I walked out of my son’s kindergarten play because my wife wouldn’t shut up. Things went down at Cheesecake Factory.
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[Update] I walked out of my son’s kindergarten play because my wife wouldn’t shut up. Things went down at Cheesecake Factory.

I want to preface this update with an expression of gratitude to everyone who gave me advice. I received direct messages from a startling number of men who have dated or married a woman with similar issues as Claire. One of these messages led to a conversation, and something the commenter said really resonated with me: he told me that in his case, his wife doesn’t really understand the concept of guilt. She doesn’t understand phrases like “You made me feel sad when you said X,” or “The way you treated me hurt my feelings.” He eventually came to an epiphany that while trying to make her understand guilt and feelings was a waste of time, she actually had a good grasp on shame, and he was able to leverage that against her. My next run-in with Claire happened when we went out to dinner two weeks after Kevin’s play. We went to Cheesecake Factory. The problem that night began when I ordered an appetizer first, which caused Claire to immediately call me a “fucking selfish idiot.” I was apparently supposed to go Kevin’s order -> Claire’s order -> appetizer -> my order. Now, before, I would usually just fix my “mistake” to disarm Claire. But this time, I calmly responded, “You’re embarrassing yourself and making everyone uncomfortable.” Claire began showing her typical pre-tantrum signs (face going red, shaking), and while she let me finish ordering, after the waitress walked away she whisper-shouted about how terrible of a human being I was. I responded in a neutral but audible voice, “The people at the tables around us are starting to stare. You look unhinged. Do we need to take our order to go or are you going to behave?” as predicted, Claire decided to double down and cause a scene. I flagged the waitress down and said that we would be taking our order to go. Now, at that point, Claire REFUSED to move from the booth. So I simply gathered Kevin, and then walked out on her, picking our food up from the takeout counter. Long story made short, Kevin and I ate in the car overlooking a canyon, watched some movies, and went home. Claire came home later, announced she was leaving because I "abandoned her," and I eagerly helped her pack. Claire is staying at her parents' house, where Kevin has visited her a few times. We only communicate through texts now (I refuse to answer her calls), but she has admitted that being with me stresses her out so much that she acts like she wouldn't normally. I know. I know. But I'll take it. We're going to get divorced and co-parent Kevin. I wish Claire well, but the woman is a disaster, through and through.

Elise Dubois
Teacher Insisted My Son Was Allergic To Peanuts So I Reported The School To The State
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Teacher Insisted My Son Was Allergic To Peanuts So I Reported The School To The State

A few weeks ago (around Easter) my son’s (5 on Easter) preschool did a small celebration that involved handing out candy. When I went to pick him up his teacher told him he couldn’t have any of the candy in a certain area because it had peanuts in it. I gently corrected her that my son is NOT allergic to peanuts, he’s allergic to tree nuts (almonds cashews etc) and to please be careful not to teach him misinformation about his allergy. She said “yes he is.” And I had to very firmly let her know that he is not allergic to peanuts. They are not tree nuts. And oddly enough he can eat them. Please check his file to understand exactly what he is allergic to and don’t teach him misinformation about his allergy. (Safety issue.). She said “you wrong. You ain’t even know what you baby allergic to.” I left and called the director and requested they have a training with the staff to educate about allergy safety. And specially any adult in charge of my own child needs to know about his allergy in detail. Fast forward to last week I stopped in to pick my son up early because he wasn’t feeling well and I came in at lunch time to see his whole class eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. (My son was eating lunch I packed from home because I feel it’s safest.) I asked the same teacher from before what they were having. She said pbj and I asked “I thought this was a nut free facility?” She said “oh it’s sun butter it just smells like peanut butter.” So I ducked my head into the kitchen and took a picture of the peanut butter jar on the counter with my phone and another of the “nut free facility” sign and at home I got ANOTHER of my contract where it says all nut products are banned (tree nuts, peanuts, etc) and I sent all 3 to the state licensing board. Then I withdrew my child from the program. My partner feels I am “doing too much” but I think they are allowing a teacher to disregard safety protocols and I’m not going to risk my child’s life. I might be TA because I want 0-60 about the issue when my son isn’t even allergic to peanuts and was not at risk when his classmates ate peanut butter sandwiches. But. They still thought he was. And still served it around him.

Anya Petrova
UPDATE: AITAH for not inviting my brother's girlfriend to my graduation after he asked me to let her wear my cap and gown ?
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UPDATE: AITAH for not inviting my brother's girlfriend to my graduation after he asked me to let her wear my cap and gown ?

I finally graduated high school! (yay!) and I'm moving out of my mom’s house in a couple of weeks to go to the military. A week prior to graduation, I decided to invite my brother (he’s 15) to my high school graduation. I hoped he would realize his request to have his girlfriend wear my cap and gown was ridiculous. On the day of graduation, I found out my brother tried to invite his girlfriend behind my back. I warned him that if he invited her, he would not be welcome at the graduation party. He got mad and asked why his girlfriend couldn't come, stating we should all celebrate as family. I explained that her behavior was unacceptable; she had insulted our mother, expressed racist views toward me, and made fun of our dead grandfather (I punched her for that last one). After I told him he wasn't invited to the party, he told her. A few hours later, she and her PARENTS came to my mom’s house to reprimand me for "insulting their little girl." I stood up for myself and told them about their daughter’s horrible actions. They dismissed my concerns, saying teenagers joke around and I shouldn't be dramatic. My mom intervened, confronted them, and threatened to call the police, which made them leave. My brother eventually broke up with her, and we haven't seen the girlfriend or her parents since.

Anya Petrova
Update, I am reversing my vasectomy and my wife has gone literally insane.
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Update, I am reversing my vasectomy and my wife has gone literally insane.

I told my wife that I am not moving out. If she wants me out, she should file for divorce and we can work things out. I told her that I would ask my sister to accompany me for surgery and she would stay for few days with us to take care of me. So her life won't be affected in any way. I also told her that I am gonna hire help for household stuff so she literally doesn't have to do anything until we are staying together. What resulted was 2 hours of silence and then it was followed by something that can only be described as hysterical shitstorm. She was alternating between crying and screaming like a banshee. I am still shell shocked or maybe I just don't care. It's hard to tell. I called her mom and she has been living with us and dealing with her. I am mostly avoiding her. I was able to hire someone on short notice but my wife accused her of sleeping with me. So she is not coming back. My main focus is on reversing my vasectomy for now. I will deal with other things after that

Luca Moretti
AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend because he refused to hold his sister accountable for violating my privacy?
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AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend because he refused to hold his sister accountable for violating my privacy?

I (26F) was with my boyfriend, Jake (29M), for three years. He’s always been close to his older sister, Laura (31F), who has a history of wild behavior and poor decisions. From the start, I accepted that she was part of the package, but she’s tested my patience countless times. She’d “borrow” my things without asking, show up unannounced, and once she even crashed on our couch for a week after an argument with her latest boyfriend. Jake would always excuse her behavior, saying “she’s trying her best” or “she’s family, so we should be patient.” A couple of months ago, Laura crossed a line. I’d left my laptop out while we had a small gathering at our apartment. While I was busy in the kitchen, she decided to snoop through my work files and discovered a confidential document I’d been working on. Without asking, she took screenshots and shared parts of it on social media as a “funny” post, adding snarky comments. This document contained sensitive information related to a major project, and her post did serious damage to my professional reputation. I was horrified when I found out, but Laura just shrugged it off, saying I “shouldn’t leave things lying around” if they’re that important. She thought it was hilarious and refused to take it down until I threatened to report the post. When I demanded that Jake back me up and set firm boundaries, he refused. He said I was “overreacting” and needed to “give her a break.” He insisted that, yes, Laura was wrong, but “family forgives,” and I needed to “let it go.” It didn’t matter to him that her actions had real consequences for my career he was more worried about “how this would make family gatherings awkward.” I felt totally unsupported and betrayed. After weeks of arguing, I told Jake I couldn’t stay with someone who couldn’t even stand up for me when his sister was clearly in the wrong. He accused me of being “cold-hearted” and of putting my “petty grudge” over our relationship. I ended it, and now he’s telling everyone I chose my “career over love” and that I’m abandoning him for something that’s “not even that serious.” Even his family has been reaching out, calling me “selfish” for not giving her “room to grow.” But I can’t shake the feeling that this was about more than just her “mistake” it’s about loyalty and respect. AITA for ending it over this?

Jonas Bergström
[UPDATE] my mom defended my pedophile brother again — this time, she went all in and attacked me.
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[UPDATE] my mom defended my pedophile brother again — this time, she went all in and attacked me.

I posted before about how my mom continues to defend my brother, who is a convicted pedophile. I confronted her in a long, honest message about how painful and messed up that is — and how she treats him with more compassion than she’s ever given me. She finally responded. And it was one of the most vile, manipulative things I’ve ever read. Here’s what she said, word for word: “Just one minute! I haven't even finished all of your text and I am not going to. I never told you that you had to have anything to do with him. (my other brother) doesn't. I don't care, it's your choice. Let me make another thing clear to you. I won't put up with you throwing what he did or how I treat him up in my face ! You have no right. I don't give up on my kids ever! I don't throw them away like trash. I haven't given up on (my sister)... She hates me but I love her because she is my daughter. You are the hateful one, the mean one, the unforgiving one. You have a hateful heart. Alex wasn't picking up kids on the playground. He is paying for what he did, and getting the help he needs. He's working on bettering himself. What are you doing? I'm disgusted with your behavior towards all of this. Your words turn my stomach and make me shake with anger. I don't even recognize the person that you've chosen to become. God help us all if this is how you choose to live your life. You want to be treated like a grown up? You are a little very little human. You fault others for being able to have compassion where you only show bitterness. I can't even believe we're related. You're going to find out what life with no support looks, right now. im glad to know one of my children walks on water.” she didnt just dismiss what I said — she dehumanized me for saying it. She made excuses for my brother’s crimes (“he wasn’t picking kids up off playgrounds”), painted him as some misunderstood soul “getting help,” and then called me hateful, bitter, mean, and unforgiving. She said I’m the one who disgusts her. She said I’m the one she can’t even believe she’s related to. She said I have a “hateful heart.” And then she literally threatened to cut me off, saying I’m about to “find out what life with no support looks like.” Meanwhile, my brother abused children. This message wasn’t just cruel. It was emotionally abusive. It was gaslighting. And it made one thing painfully clear: she doesn’t want the truth — she wants silence and submission. I’m not giving her either.

Jonas Bergström