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AITA for breaking up with my bf after he said my pain during sex was hot to him?

I usually just like vanilla sex, but my boyfriend started wanting more. He started wanting to be rough with me and recently he’s been doing things like pulling my hair, slapping my ass, and putting his hands on my neck so I couldn’t breath and I would start to pass out. We were having sex and he turned me around to be face down and he was pulling my hair and started slapping me while going fast into me. It was hurting and I told him this hurts hey can we not do it like this now and he didn’t say anything for a minute and then he started going faster and told me to tell him it hurts and i told him it hurts and he said this feels so good. I grabbed his hand off of my hair and I tried turning around but he just pushed my body down into the mattress and I tried telling him its hurting but he kept going and said he was going to finish and went for another minute and then he finished in me. He told me that was so hot and I told him it was painful and I don’t want to do it like that again and he told me that I didn’t even try to make him stop or push him off or anything so he thought I liked it and it was some of the best sex he’s ever had. I went to the shower and I started crying and it was hurting after still. I came out upset at him and he was just walking away from me and I was feeling insane and I was upset. He told me I was just inexperienced and that I needed to get used to different sex play with him. I told him I wasn’t interested in that anymore and I ended up breaking up with him and he told me I was throwing away our relationship because he wanted to try something new and I left.

2025-10-15 12:42:41

Elise Dubois

Current Events

AITAH for reporting my coworker for stealing my food ?

My coworker is single and pregnant. I think she’s due in June. We’re all happy for her and planning a big baby shower at work before she goes on maternity leave. The problem is she keeps stealing my lunch or snacks without asking. I literally caught her devouring my food, and when I confronted her, she started crying about cravings and called me heartless. I didn’t want to make a scene at work, so I just let it go and told her to at least ask before touching my food next time. Then it happened again. This time, it was my labeled tiramisu from a local bakery. I had planned to bring it to my friend after work. I lost it. I told her there was a label on the box with my name and a DO NOT TOUCH MY FOOD post-it on it. She just said, “I know, but the baby really wanted tiramisu! It was sooooo good .” Then she started crying again and making a scene. So I reported it to my boss. Now my boss wants to meet with both of us on Friday. Was I the asshole? Some coworkers think reporting her was too much and that if I’m so worried about my food, I shouldn’t put it in the work fridge. She is pregnant and single she probably can’t afford since she is single so be a little empathetic . Did I overreact?

2025-09-15 13:28:15

Luca Moretti

Family

AITA for not moving my wedding date? UPDATE

Hey everyone! It's been a while (I forgot my password), but a few people asked for updates on how my last post turned out. Unfortunately, a lot of you may not like the answer. Almost all of you said not to change the date, and to enjoy my time without them there. I followed half of that advice. I eventually did relent to my family and change the date of the wedding. My fiancé (now husband!) said that the date wasn't as important as my happiness, and the fighting with my parents was destroying that. Now after six months, we both wish we hadn't because it was useless. They still didn't show up. Not only that, but they convinced 90{39ca6eb452c0ce4419cd73a8f3bd18a23fe95ab4febb092bc2ab1b542eeea82f} of my family not to show up either. I ended up with only four relatives there in a crowd of about 100 guests. My mother claimed that I had been "excluding her from planning" (by scheduling venue tours on days that my fiance and I were both free but I didn't realize she was working, and by finding my dress by surprise on a "just here to look" trip without her being there). They hadn't shown any interest in planning, so I mainly didn't want to bother them. To them, this was "clearly a sign that you don't want us there". So they went out of town on the new date. In the end, narcissist mother still got her yoga, I still moved my date, and I still walked myself down the aisle. But my petty self did, in fact, strike back. I had an amazing time, and I made sure that I left obvious empty seats marked for them and told everyone the truth with a smile when they asked. The few family members that did show are now no longer speaking to them either, as are all of the friends who came. The only exception is my brother (who I'm pretty sure they asked to relay the details of the party to them), and even he has almost entirely cut them out due to how they've acted. I haven't spoken to my mother since about a month before the wedding, when she told me to get all of my old things out of her house. I speak to my father very rarely, and only over things like deaths in the family. My in-laws have basically taken me in as their own, and I'm far happier than I ever was in the nightmare of a family I grew up with. Life is good. TLDR: moved the date of the wedding so mom could go to yoga, parents still didn't show, had a better day without them than I would have with them there, finally cut contact with those narcissists

2025-09-04 12:43:41

Anya Petrova

Relationships

UPDATE: My girlfriend is turning 21 and wants me (21M) to throw her a party. How do I break the news that no one will show up?

OP: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3guzht/my_girlfriend_is_turning_21_and_wants_me_21m_to/ I logged into facebook at like 2 AM last night and my girlfriend has posted a message on the party event wall saying the party was cancelled. She saw the no-shows before I could let her know about it. I called her and suggested some other activities we could do, things like amusement parks or concerts or taking a cooking class. I thought she'd like all those ideas. "No thank you." We were kinda quiet over the phone, until she asked me in a really small voice if I could come over. We met outside her dorm at like 3 in the morning. She was crying, as I expected. But it was just watery eyes, not full on sobs how she usually cries. "It's okay," she said. "Some people aren't meant to have friends." I told her she was exaggerating, that she just needs to look in different places, etc. She shook her head. "No, I'm done." This morning at breakfast we passed a lot of mutual acquaintances. Usually my girlfriend smiles and says hello. Today she just kept her eyes on the pavement, not looking at anyone. She barely ate. But other than that she seemed like her normal self with me, talking and laughing. She just wouldn't look at anyone else. She told me how she's going to use this extra time to get better in her classes, to work on her jewelry and maybe open an etsy shop. To read more books. I asked her if this is really what she wanted. "No, but life doesn't always give you what you want. I didn't want to be an engineer. I didn't want to live in a basement alone. I didn't want to hate college and wish every day that I could drop out. But you make the best of it." Her voice was breaking as she said this, but she didn't cry. She left the breakfast table after that and said she wanted to be alone. Where the hell do I go from here? Her actual birthday is tomorrow (we were throwing the party a week later) and she insists she doesn't want to do anything. Is it bad that part of me sort of agreed with her, that some people aren't meant to make friends? I don't think I am, but obviously she wants friends and it's making her miserable. **tl;dr**: Girlfriend canceled party, said she didn't want to do anything for her birthday, and announced that she's given up on finding friends. She isn't going back to any of her clubs or activities, and is going to focus on her studies and hobbies this coming year. Her actual 21st birthday is tomorrow. Where do I go from here? **EDIT: I am sitting with her in her dorm room right now. She's on the bed reading, I'm on the couch minding my own business, just being near her. She is okay.**

2025-09-15 13:41:27

Elise Dubois

Current Events

AITA for reporting a cashier to his supervisor ?

My elder brothers are brown. They both are really tall and buff guys. I am a really small white girl, people think I am 16 while I am actually 19. I was out shopping with my brothers and I was pissed off because of some drama going in my friend group. I was not in a good mood and I wasn't talking to my brothers and just grabbing what needed to be picked up. We went to pay the bill and I was the one paying it. The cashier asked me if I was alright. I didn't catch what he meant and nodded. Then while he was scanning things he again asked me if I someone was bothering me while eyeing my brothers. I smiled and told him that I am fine and said they were my step siblings, this guy again pointed to the security guard and if I needed help, I had enough and I asked him If I could talk to his supervisor. we had to wait 10 minutes but he brought his supervisor over and I explained the situation and pointed out that his attitude was shitty. We left after that, My brothers didn't really care but my cousin who is over at our place thinks I made too big a deal off it. I feel like an asshole because, I do look like a child and I was not giving off friendly vibes at all. I was very tightly wound and I may have got this guy a write up because he misread my body language. I like to assume the best of people and I feel I didn't do it here. I am fed up of answering this but they are my half siblings. our dad who is white was married to an Indian woman and then he married my mom who is also white and had me. I am pretty close to my brothers and I don't like it when people think it is weird.

2025-09-05 00:01:22

Jonas Bergström

Relationships

[Final update] AITAH for kicking out my husband after he went to go see and comfort his ex-girlfriend?

I (32F) and my husband (38M) have been married for 3 years, our relationship has had its ups and downs but we’re a relatively happy couple. Though, in the beginning of our relationship, he was also dating Angela (24F) 5 years ago, I was unaware of this other relationship but when I found out, I confronted him and he told me that since we weren’t officially dating that he didn’t know we were exclusive. I told him that if he didn’t cut off this relationship with Angela, that I was going to break it off. We left it at that and we didn’t talk for a while when he came to my apartment unexpectedly weeks later saying it was over with Angela and that he wanted to try again and asked me to be his girlfriend. Ever since then we have been a pretty normal couple, we have our moments but our relationship is going good and I believe he is my soulmate. Recently there’s been an issue in our relationship though, Angela. 3 weeks ago, we were out running errands and ||......🔽

2025-08-20 19:47:22

Anya Petrova

Current Events

UPDATE: AITA for telling my half-siblings to get over the fact that we have the same dad?

So, I (16F) didn't know my real dad was for most of my life. It turned out that he was my mom's best friend's husband cause he cheated with my mom. They all knew, my mom just didn't tell me until this year. Looking back he's always been like a dad to me even though I always referred to him as Uncle David. My dad and his wife, who I call Aunt Olivia, have kids and I always thought they liked me, like they're younger but they'd always want me to play with them and they were always trying to impress me and stuff. I was like an older cousin than a sister though. Since we got everything in the open I've been over to their house more often. Aunt Olivia loves having me there and I love having her be my stepmom cause she was already like my bonus mom. But the kids don't like me anymore, they don't want me to play with them anymore and they'll barely acknowledge my presence. Yesterday during dinner my dad ||...↙️

2025-08-20 14:25:51

Jonas Bergström

WIBTA

WIBTA for reporting my neighbours?

A few years ago my partner (27M) and I (27F) bought our first home. I had some savings & a sum of money that had come through from a medical negligence case, & my partner had some inheritance money. We met our neighbours(68M, 65F) the day we started moving furniture in. The woman demanded to know our landlords name so she could "keep in contact with him" & seemed genuinely offended when we told her we owned the house. She made a shitty comment about how she had to work all her life to buy her house, & we were "too young" to deserve a home. I'm waiting on an organ transplant, so work from home in the meantime. One morning I came home from a quick walk around the block with my dog & noticed their son's car parked across my driveway and blocking mine in. I knocked on the door and politely explained that I need to be able to leave at all times in case of a medical emergency, especially if I'm called in for a transplant. The woman snapped at me that she doesn't like people parking next to her because it makes her drive "look messy". Her son did move the car, but called me selfish & a snowflake as he did so. Once she hammered on my door and told me to "shut (my) dog up because he's been barking all day" even though he was at the vet and had been for a few days. About a month after that, I noticed my dog eating something in my garden. I went over to investigate, & saw he had a chocolate bar in his mouth & had eaten most of it. I found a few more empty wrappers scattered along the fence between my yard & the neighbours', immediately called the vet. I'm pretty sure it was my neighbour, but I don't have solid proof so I can't say anything. More than once I've caught her trying to steal our post from the postman. I just don't get *why*. A lot of it is just stuff I need for work (printer paper, sticky notes, etc) with no real monetary value, or medical stuff and non-prescription supplements that are pretty specific to my illness and no use to anyone else. There's literally nothing to be gained from taking it. Her husband is racist and homophobic, and uses the P-word, N-word,& F-word all the time. He also really hates children. Last Halloween he threw a bucket of water over a group of trick-or-treaters. when the parents came over to complain they pretended they weren't home. We've been thinking about extending our kitchen just a little to make it a bit more accessible for me. Somehow in the process, we found our the neighbours' own extention was done illegally. They'd been denied planning permission, but they built it anyway. During the process, they'd also caused some aesthetic damage to our property. A really petty part of me wants to report them, because they've been needlessly nasty for *years*. They would be forced to have it taken down AND pay for the repairs to our house. Tl;Dr WIBTA for reporting my asshole neighbours after enduring years of their shitty behaviour?

2025-11-08 20:17:39

Luca Moretti

Current Events

AITA telling my co worker that I will report him after he announced my pregnancy during lunchbreak?

I F33 have been working in this company for 4 years. I have great relationship with my co workers and one of them is "Austin". Austin is incredibly sociable and easy to adapt with new co workers. We talk about all kinds of stuff while of course keeping it professional. I'm married and recently found out I was pregnant but only my husband knew about it. Haven't even told anyone in our families or friend circle. The other day at work me and the co workers were on lunch break and Austin was with us. We talked then he suddenly got up from his chair and asked for everyone's attention for a minute. I didn't know what that was about til he loudly announced that I was pregnant. I was stunned, like mouth open eyes not moving just staring at him as he and the other rushed to congratulate me and flood me with well wishes and parenting jokes and advice. I was in utter shock I asked how he knew and he said "remember when you gave me a ride the other day? I saw your pregnancy test result on the dashboard" my first action was lashing out at him infront of everyone asking why the hell he just shared a private medical information at my workplace. He said he was just sharing "our joy" with everyone else since only him and I knew. Other co workers asked that I calm down but I meanly told him he was out of line and that I will be reporting him to my superior for this then stormed off while Austin just stood there. My female co workers came to tell me how rude I was towards Austin's "nice gesture" and insisted I hurt him and that I overreacted especially for saying I will be reporting him since he was just sharing happy news with everyone and I was just being too sensitive but I felt my privacy was violated plus I wanted to tell everyone on my own terms. Still my co workers tried to talk me out of it. Not just that but apologize to him for lashing out like that. Aita for my reaction?

2025-10-07 05:09:46

Jonas Bergström

Relationships

AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend after he kept asking to do anal even after I told him I was raped?

When I was a younger, I was drugged and anally raped by someone I trusted. I never wanted to think about it again. My bf asked me if we could try anal. I said no and wanted to shut down. He asked me if I'd done it before. I said yes. He said "so you did it for someone else but not me?" I told him it wasn't like that, that it wasn't consensual, and that I didn't want to talk about it again ever. He said ok and promised not to bring it up again. A few days later he brought it up again. He tried to sell it to me, "I think I could make it feel good", "it could help you move past it if we did it right." I froze, I couldn't breath, I told him "i told you, don't ask me about this again, i will never want it, i'm not going to change my mind" and he apologized and said he won't ask again. A couple weeks later he proposed it again. So I broke up with him. He apologized again and said we don't have to end it over this and that we don't have to throw away everything we've built over this. But I told him that we're done. One of my friends said that he was just being naive and I didn't need to break up with him over this, that we could work through it. My ex promised never to bring it up again but I was done. AITA??

2025-10-14 20:05:36

Elise Dubois

Relationships

AITA for breaking up with my FTM boyfriend because I'm not gay?

I (M20) and my boyfriend (FTM21) have been together for almost two years. Recently, he came out as trans female to male to me and his closest friends. Since he is still only studying and his parents aren't supportive, but I already have a job, I've offered to pay for his treatment. Some weeks ago we talked and I told him that since I'm not into men, maybe we should break up. I offered to keep paying for his testosterone until he can pay for it himself, but he got angry and called me a transphobe. Am I really a transphobe? I tried my best to be gentle and told him we didn't need to break up immediately, if he didn't want to, but just that we should probably start to slowly stop dating. Also sorry if some of these sentences don't make sense, english isn't my first language.

2025-09-27 18:47:37

Luca Moretti

Current Events

AITA for reporting a coworker who sent me a screenshot of a female intern's outfit during a zoom call, and he got fired?

I'm working an internship at this company and we get to WFH one day a week. A couple weeks ago, we had a 1 hour zoom meeting and our team were all wfh during that day. The meeting was with me, Mark (another intern from my college that I didn't know before), Zoe (another intern from a different college), Aaron (my boss), and a few others. During the call, I noticed that Zoe was wearing a somewhat sheer top with no bra. Nobody else said anything during the call, and I didn't either, but I just rearranged the zoom call on my screen so that I couldn't see her camera anymore. Near the end of the call, Mark sent me a screenshot of Zoe's camera with the message, "Bro do you see what Zoe's wearing lol? We can see everything". I wasn't sure how to respond so I just didn't respond to it. This wasn't the first questionable thing of that sort that Mark has said and I remembered some of the stuff we were talked to about, in regards to inappropriate workplace behavior and what to do about it. Now I didn't think that message was appropriate but I wasn't really sure right then, but after thinking about it I ended up forwarding the message to my HR person. As a result, HR ended up interviewing us to see what went on, and Mark ended up getting fired with cause. I didn't really think or intend for Mark to get fired but that's what happened. Zoe ended up thanking me and said she didn't mean that for her outfit, but she also said she wished someone had said something during the meeting. Before this, I was getting along really well with the team and was getting stuck into one of the projects. But after Mark got fired, my boss Aaron who was also mentoring me, as well as another coworker, started talking to me less and being a little less friendly. The next catchup meeting with Aaron was shorter, and there was less small talk at the office. They also stopped the bantering that we were having fun with too. I don't think I overreacted and I felt that message wasn't right to send to me, but now the vibe at work is different and colder. AITA for reporting Mark and getting him fired?

2025-10-13 19:05:31

Elise Dubois

Relationships

AITAH for breaking up with a woman who can't have sex due to a medical condition?

I (40m) met a woman on dating apps. She was funny and intriguing and I quite liked her. On our 4th date, she revealed to me that she can't have sex due to a medical condition. I asked some time to think about it. I decided to tell her next day that I am not interested in a sexless relationship. I like her a lot but at this point of time in my life, I don't want to remain celibate. She agreed Intially. Then few hours later she texted me that her marriage broke down because of her medical condition. Then she got very mad at me, telling me that all of "them" are like that and she has lot to offer but "they" are can't think about anything other than sex. Then she texted other things about how women are happier single, some blogs etc I get that rejection hurts but it's too much.

2025-10-15 12:42:41

Anya Petrova

Current Events

Update 2: AITAH for telling my 19f daughter she will have to move out of my house if I get divorced because of her lies after after her stepdad saw her naked.

Been a while and i see a bunch of people asking for updates, i wasn't in the mood and i have been crying myself to sleep every night. I don't know what to do anymore, i lost my husband, family and my daughter. Thank you to everyone first but it's official im getting divorced. I was served with the divorce papers and my husbandwant nothingto do with us anymore. I have moved out of the house and i am currently staying with a friend untill i can get my life back in order. I have cut completely contact with my family but they still try and get into contact with me from different numbers or from different profiles on FB and Instagram. I don't know how long i can continue to stay with my friend because her life is now being impacted as well with my family members just showing up at her apartment. I would like to get a different place to stay but my salary won't be able to cover everything i need. My husband or STBXH covered all our bills previously but now i have to do everything myself. My daughter just packed her things a little over a week ago and moved away i don't know where she is at the moment and her friends are refusing to tell me anything. She tried to talk to my STBXH and he got a restraining order against her, she violated the order and he got her arrested, i don't know what went on in her head i tried to talk to her but she was admitted that she will fix everything but like i said my ex got a restraining order against her and then had her arrested when she kept going to him. My daughter will have to drop out of college because my ex is now refusing to continue covering anything els for her and retracted his offer to continue paying. He sent me a message saying he done. I didn't respect his wishes so i had to get out of his house immediately and my daughter also went against his wishes so he is retracting everthing from her as well. She is on her own. He said if i or my daughter continues harassing him he will open up a case against my daughter for defamation. I don't have enough money for myself at the moment with my job and all the bills so i definitely can't assist her, she packed up in the middle of the night and just left after i told her she will have to drop out and get a job. My STBXH became completely emotionless and cold the last couple of weeks and refused to talk to me about anything other than anything regarding the divorce. He said he would have been supportive and assisted for a while untill i could get on my feet but it clear we only want to use him, his generosity so he is done. He wanted to void the prenup we have but will now follow the prenup to the letter meaning i will basically get nothing in the divorce. I don't want anything, i just want him back. Even with everything that happened, i still want my husband the kind, carring, sweet man i had i want him back. I need him to come back. I told him my daughter moved out of the house and asked again if we could try and fix our marriage and he didn't even respond. The last message i got from him was him asking if i signed the divorce papers yet or if i got a lawyer yet to look over the divorce papers. Because he want to be done with this and move on because it's clear to him now that no one in my family me included respected him at all. In that message he also said i should get my family to back off because they are still harassing him with message, calls and email and he is sick of it. If they don't stop het will report them as well. To the people that keep asking me why i didn't do anything when the lies started to spread i did do everything i could. I was accused of protecting my creep of a husband and the video didn't help because i did send it to some of my relatives but it has no audio so it only shows him knocking and then walking in my daughter said sje awnsered him and he still went in.

2025-10-13 19:08:43

Luca Moretti

Current Events

AITA for reporting someone to HR and recording them?

I am a brown man, of mixed english, scottish, and indian descent. I currently work in a legal office, in the uk and we have an American working with us. He prides himself on being super diverse and available to all cultures. I honestly don't know much about him, but he's always making everything about race. Everytime I speak, it's something like "did they teach you that in India? Is the teaching there super strict". I'll call this guy Brian for ease. I've always found him highly offensive. He makes comments about how Indians are super good at maths, but the parents are almost always abusive as hell. Recently, his "thing" has become learning Hindi. Obviously, because I'm brown and have an Indian name, I must know Hindi. I don't know Hindi at all. Being honest, I've always felt more like a white guy in brown skin because I grew up in London, around white people, and around British culture. I feel no real connection to any part of Indian culture and i'm ok with that. Brian is not. Every time he needs to speak to me, he exclusively speaks Hindi. He's doing a pretty good job of learning it, because he is speaking quite fluently, and only really uses words in english every once in a while. Every single time I say anything, he responds only in Hindi. This happens even when I'm not talking to him. Eventually I got fed up and reported him to HR, but they said there was no solid proof, so they couldn't do anything more than tell him not to, because he denied it. So, I started putting my phone on record, and whenever he'd come to me, he'd start off speaking Hindi. I told him that I do not speak Hindi, and he would continue speaking Hindi. I got all of this on recording and sent it to HR. Apparently they also translated what he was saying and found out half the time he was insulting me, my family, the fact that I have scars from wars, and a shit ton of other including stuff like "how can a brown Paki like you not even understand Hindi. Trying to be some white guy is it?" This obviously got him fired and now whenever we get calls about recommendations, we tell him what he did. He recently began a flame war on social media about me and how it's my fault I don't understand Hindi and how he was just trying to learn a new language, and that I should apologise. AITA?

2025-09-02 16:28:14

Clara Jensen

Family

My brother's wedding update #3

So my grandparents actually called me the following morning asking if i got invited to the wedding, i said no and they were soo mad. Turns out my grandparents were paying for the wedding. My brother told everyone he was paying for everything himself but nope. My grandparents are now not paying for the wedding after fsil also refused to tell them what she is upset about. My parents have stepped up to cover the rest of the wedding expenses and my grandparents, my bf and i will be enjoying a great weekend. Thank you to everyone'scomments and advise i really appreciate it. That's all the updates i have but i will keep you posted.

2025-09-27 11:09:10

Luca Moretti

Family

UPDATE: AITA for telling my sister she’s not allowed to bring her homemade food to Thanksgiving because her cooking is ruining the meal?

Alright, so Thanksgiving is now just a little over two weeks away, and somehow, things have escalated even further than I thought possible. I thought maybe my sister’s “Thanksgiving Trio Experience” would be the peak of the drama—well, turns out I was wrong. Since the last update, my sister has become fully committed to making her “dishes” the main attraction. She’s been dropping hints in the family group chat (which I’m still not included in, but shoutout to my cousin for the screenshots) about how this Thanksgiving will be “one to remember” and calling it her “Thanksgiving Debut.” She’s apparently been referring to herself as the “Thanksgiving Head Chef” and has hinted that she’s bringing some kind of “culinary surprise centerpiece” that will “transform the whole experience.” From what I can piece together, she’s planning a main “statement dish” in addition to her original three side dishes. I’m picturing something equally bizarre but on a much larger scale, and honestly, I’m terrified. If her green bean casserole was already pushing it, I can’t even imagine what she thinks is worthy of being the “centerpiece.” Then, to make things even weirder, my mom texted me privately and suggested that I “step back” this year and let my sister “shine” since she’s “so excited about her contributions.” My mom thinks if we just give her this moment, it’ll make her happy and she’ll “get it out of her system.” She even hinted that maybe I should “focus on decorations and drinks” instead of the main dishes, which feels like an attempt to turn hosting over to my sister without actually saying it. So now, I’m left with a choice: go along with my mom’s plan and let my sister essentially hijack Thanksgiving, or keep pushing back and risk a family showdown. I just wanted a nice Thanksgiving with dishes everyone would enjoy, but it seems like I’m either about to hand over the whole meal to her… or prepare for some serious drama. Thanksgiving isn’t even here yet, and it already feels like a circus. I’m half tempted to just sit back and see what chaos unfolds, but part of me is still worried about subjecting the whole family to whatever “artistic statement” she has planned.

2025-10-12 11:59:45

Clara Jensen

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AITA for “double-reporting” an employee (to his boss, and then to corporate) and probably getting him fired?

My husband and I have a 15 year old son, who is biracial; my husband is African American and I am white (this will be important later on in the story). My son just got his driver’s permit and has begun driving with me on a regular basis. The other day we were on the road, and he accidentally cut off a truck, making him have to break abruptly. I scolded my son and gave a “sorry” wave to the driver. At the next red light which came about a minute later, the guy pulled up next to us. His car had a large company logo on it, indicating he was on the job. He rolled down the window and shouted the N-word at my son. My son’s face went pale, and he was quiet, depressed and clearly wounded deeply the rest of the drive home. The encounter sickened me. I did some research on the company; at one point I even plugged them into Facebook. They have a very active Facebook page and seem like an organization that prides themselves on a good image and good customer service. I called the company and reported the man’s behavior, describing him very vividly. They informed me that they knew exactly who I was talking about, and that all their drivers drive with a dashcam, so his behavior is on camera. I had a good feeling about the encounter and that they were going to definitely take care of the situation. Two months later, when I was browsing Facebook kind of boredly one day, the company’s name was recommended in my search, and just for the hell of it I clicked and looked at their page for the first time in two months. One of the very first photos/posts I saw from just a day ago showed a big group of their employees huddled together in their company yard, with some kind of tag about a project they just completed. To my horror, I saw the employee who shouted at my son in the group, grinning widely. Meaning they didn’t fire him. The company is part of a nationwide chain, so I called their corporate headquarters, was connected to the highest person I could get to, and I reported the incident to them, and complained about how they didn’t fire him. The man I spoke to sounded disgusted, way, way more so than the previous person I’d reported him to, apologized profusely, and thanked me very much for telling him. Additionally, he made multiple statements about how racists and bigots have “no place” and “no future” in his company, giving me a strong feeling the offending employee’s career is now toast. Was it right of me to “double-report” this guy? I’m sure he was given at least some consequence the first time around (if not fired) and wonder if some might argue that I was going too far or being vindictive by reporting him again. Am I an asshole or a “Karen” for not dropping this matter?

2025-11-08 17:05:46

Anya Petrova